I have witnessed much bickering on this one. Within my family in fact. And I personally don't think this battle will end, like any other parenting issue. So which side am I on? Definitely co-sleeping. Here's how it happened.
Just a week before my expected due date, we finally fixed our soon to be baby's crib. We arranged it downstairs my great grandparents' Tarlac heritage home where we were temporarily residing. We made sure its location is somewhere well ventilated and not swarmed by mosquitoes, wasps, spiders and other insects you wouldn't believe are roaming in and out of the house.
Good thing the crib was just borrowed from a cousin of mine. Baby never slept in there!
Ever since we took our bundle of joy home from the hospital, she has always slumbered on our bed with us. The first few weeks, we let her sleep on a baby mattress with an attached mosquito net. How it looks like:
Then my hubby and I would place her on our bed, in between us. So in the middle of the night, when she cries asking to be nursed, we need not get up from bed and walk like zombies to the crib. Stumbling on random room stuff like the lamp or the fan.
I was majorly paranoid also during her first month that I'd wake up in the wee hours even if she's in a deep sleep to make sure she's unharmed, not spitting up, and breathing properly. It was easy for me to do so when she's just by my side.
Some would say that when co-sleeping (also called bedsharing), the baby is safe to sleep between the mother and the edge of the bed (supposing that edge is beside the wall and with a pillow). Her maternal instincts could tell even in her sleep the position of the baby, how far or close she is.
In our case, I could say that my hubby's level of paternal instinct is at par with my maternal one. And even without that pangtakip ng ulam, both of us are totally aware of the space allocated for the baby even while we're catching some shut-eye.
I have also noticed that after she wakes up from her daytime nap and feeds, it seems easy for her to go back to sleep when she's beside any of us. That does not happen when she's in her stroller (we didn't bring her crib to our current Baguio house).
Will this make her more dependent on us? I can't answer that yet but what I do know is that it does not make her feel unloved.
So folks, I guess this is what parenting's about. You do your own extensive research then you experiment on things (nothing too crazy though) which you think will work for your family. For every baby is different, so is every household... so is every mum.
How about you? Which side are you on?
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